My two oldest boys were adopted through a private agency. One of their requirements is that from 0-12 years of age, the adoptive parents must send a letter and pictures to the agency for the birth parents. I'll never know if they are read, they just hold them if the birth parents do choose to ask for them. When we were going through the adoption process, I was a little hesitant to start the first letter (they were monthly the first year) because I was worried that somehow they would want them back, did I want to share these first steps, words, etc. But then I realized that I did want to share. I wanted them to see how big the boys were getting, how healthy and happy they were. I wanted them to be at peace and if looking at the boys grow up helped, then I was all for it. Let's face it, the hardest decision this birth mom ever had was to give up her babies. She was a single mom with two girls and struggling. She was warm and sweet when we met and we will always be so grateful to her. She is a part of our extended family.....
So I better get moving on the letter, an added bonus is I get to look back at the past year and all that the boys accomplished. Have a good one....
Wow... I could imagine how tough that must have been at first. I have always wanted to adopt a baby boy. I think of all the children who despertely need to be adopted and it breaks my heart. It certainly had to be one of the hardest decisions the birth mother has had to make. I think it's wonderful of you to open your heart to them and keep the birth mother updated on thier growing!!
ReplyDeleteHope yall are all doing well. And I am hoping we get more rain this week...
-April
I am completely behind in reading everyone's blogs. I think I have read all of yours, but this one is the post that demanded a comment. I had to write the letters every month for the first year for sons 1, 3 and 4. It was a bit nerve wracking for the same reasons, but in the end, I enjoyed taking the time to brag about my sons. Out of the blue a few years ago, the agency contacted us and asked for us to write an update letter for son #3. Again, I had those surreal feelings, writing about my son to a woman who is now basically a stranger to him. However, I am glad to put any of her fears or questions to rest. We have since moved so many times that the agency has lost track of us. I am actually a "friend" of son #1's birth mom on Facebook. How weird is that?!
ReplyDelete